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: Posts on “Men’s Reproductive Rights”

Breastfeeding group: no trans “dad” as leaders

Please note: The blog posts are not endorsed by the Canadian Association for Equality and do not represent official positions or policies of the organization.

By Roni, University of Guelph

The Story

http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/story/2012/08/20/trevor-macdonald-breastfeed.html

Reaction

“You have given up your fundamental right to be a woman socially and biologically when you undergo sex reassignment surgery; you can’t have it both ways.”

Why not?

Please go brush up on what trans means and the continuum of choices they make in conforming to one or no gender. Besides, male lactation is not entirely impossible. Even though I wonder about production level, physiological and irreversible changes, perhaps the milk itself matters less than the breastfeeding action. After all, this is a group that supported individuals that may not have enough lactation due to various situations.

http://www.milkjunkies.net/2012/08/my-lll-rejection-letter.html

…who decided the difference between motherhood and fatherhood in parenting anyways?
What are they based on? Are they valid? What are the implications? Are they necessarily superior and better off without any improvement attempts?

T. MacDonald suggested that he could be of additional help to his local leader; and if necessary, make his situation known before members are comfortable in being supported by him.

I wonder what happens if a lesbian LLLC leader considers herself the father… do they simply adopt the term mother associated with the female gender, do they both mother the child, thus missing the “unique, non-interchangeable contribution of fatherhood”, or do they each adopt a different role, similar or unlike the traditional mother and father roles? You see, as Ann said, if only LLLC were honest about how unconventional T. MacDonald’s experience is for other members to relate to him, that decline would’ve passed by “peer support” in my book.

Aftermath

LLLC failed to evolve and we have to respect their choice. I also agree that the Breastfeeding Transmen group resulted from this is a better outcome. What do you think? Vote on BBC News Community or comment here.

Men need a Roe v. Wade

Those who moralize on either side of the tired abortion debate seem to forget it takes two people to conceive a child. I was reminded of that again while listening to the audiobook “Freakenomics”, which attempts to study the psychology of incentives and its effects on microeconomics. One interesting insight discovered was the correlation between the legality of abortion in the US and a drop in crime right around the period that those non-existent babies – over 50% of whom would have been born into families below the poverty line – turned into non-existent criminals.

The book made the compelling point that the benefits of this voluntary eugenics was at least partially apparent to the Justices that made their fateful decision in Roe v. Wade. The Supreme Court Majority Opinion, written by justice Harry Blackman, read as follows “the detriment that the state would impose upon the pregnant woman by denying this choice altogether is apparent. Maternity, or additional offspring may force upon the woman a distressful life and future. Psychological harm may be imminent. Mental and physical health may be taxed by childcare. There is also the distress for all concerned associated with the unwanted child and there is the problem with bringing the child into a family already unable psychologically and otherwise to care for it.”

Which got me thinking, what part of this quote couldn’t just as easily be drafted about men, fathers and paternity. We talk about a woman’s choice and bodily autonomy, and I’m not suggesting women shouldn’t ultimately have the final say over their body, but why have we come to the point where we go out of our way to ignore and sideline the father’s opinion in the issue.

It seems counterintuitive to me to insist a man have no say in the creation of a life, then complain that he makes a crummy father and seems less interested in childreadring. A doctor is expected to give the woman as much information as needed to make an informed abortion decision. Shouldn’t a man who has some of the doubts expressed by Justice Blackman – psychological distress or economic concerns – be encouraged to contribute that information as well to this important family decision.

And if we’re so concerned with bodily autonomy, men ought to have an opt-out available, so that if their partner should say lie about being on birth control, their male body isn’t then held financially accountable to raise a child for 18 years, often necessitating cutting short a possibly fantastic career and instead entering dangerous and unsatisfying (but hence highpaying) jobs.

One last reminder to those feminists who like to pat themselves on the back and tell each other that they and they alone are responsible for women’s progress. All 9 Justices deciding Roe V. Wade were male.